The following is my response to a very interesting anonymous question that I received on forumspring:
"What obstacles do you see when it comes to developing a form of sisterhood?"
Growing up girls expereicne a very different social life from boys and somewhere along the way too many of us hold on to high-school esque drama and carry it throughout our adult lives. Women unfortunately make it difficult to trust one another more often than not. When one female friendship scars you (especially early in your life), you kind of search the rest of your life for another great female companion. Your best friend does virtually everything with you. Sometimes women give up and only have male friends. And other times women automatically hate and dislike other women due to their history of mistrust without even learning one thing about the other girl. How many older women in your family can you name who have that best female friend who isn't a family member? It's usually the older women who tell us about trust with a woman friend and give us their experiences until we inevitably experienced our own sour situations. There are scandalous women who will do vicious things to you just for the hell of it. And there are some who do negative things simply because they've been hurt and they just want everyone else to feel hurt too. But there are men who do the same as well. The main difference between us (women) and men is that men can fight it out and get over petty isssues. Women on the other hand do not, women hold grudges for ages and sometimes even go to the extent of rallying other women against you or even attack your personal character. Women try to exile their own and trivialize her existance instead of uniting and creating a positive path forward by simply solving the issue. Gossip is another huge culprit instead of speaking directly to the woman, others get their information from everyone except the person in question. I know that it's not impossible for women to attain sisterhood, but both parties must agree and heal. Additionally there should most definitely be an understanding of letting go. I'm actually pretty shocked that this wasn't another bizarre negative question. However I truly appreciate this question and I hope to get asked many more like this in the future.
